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Week 20: Teach Others to Initiate
QUESTION
Are you spreading deep and consistent friendship to others…initiating connection to grow Level 5 Friendships?
STORY
I met Dave as we talked about a possible speech in California. He works with business leaders and meets with multiple men personally. He was really interested in my habits of friendship and Level 5 Friendship. Instead of just explaining it to him, I suggested we schedule a time to huddle each week. For at least two years, we had a weekly call based on the question, “What’s the most important thing you need to talk about today?” Then we’d ask what the top prayer need was and pray for each other. We grew close and helped each other hugely. We both have several other core friends and eventually made huddling with them our priority. But now Dave can share that style of Level 5 Friendship with the slew of men he coaches who deeply need a real friend or two.
EXAMINE SELF
Who’s watching and learning from me? Am I showing them how to be a great friend and build true brotherhood?
SCRIPTURE
“And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others.” — 2 Timothy 2:2
QUOTE
You don’t need to be an expert or an organizer—just be an example.
TIP
The best way to pass on friendship is to simply model it… and then talk about it.
PRAY, CONFESS & REPENT
Father, forgive me for not sharing and helping other guys develop the quality friendships you’ve given me. Help me to live it out with guys who can pass it on.
COACHING
Reproduction is the goal of real discipleship. Pass on what you practice.
ACTION STEP
Bring Level 5 Friendship traits into your small group and other men’s groups by encouraging practices like processing life together and sharing parts of their stories. Challenge men to identify two core friends they can meet with weekly to talk honestly, pray together, and walk through life side by side.
COMMITMENT
I will keep helping other guys learn and enjoy how to initiate and deepen friendships.
HABIT
Keep asking yourself: “Who am I modeling this for—and who am I coaching to do the same?”
TALK & PRAY WITH FRIENDS
Who is God calling you and me to coach into initiating consistent and deep friendships as Jesus intended? Let’s pray about that together.
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