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Week 13: Stop Dabbling–Start Committing
QUESTION
Are you ready to invest by building deeper friendships with the right guys?
STORY
A couple years ago, I stopped wishing I had deeper friendships with a few peers I liked and respected in men’s ministry. I’d think, It would be great to be close friends with a couple of these guys who actually understand my life… but I don’t have time.
Then I quit wishing. I did something. I called these few guys individually. They didn’t even know each other. I told them I respected them, thought the other guys were solid, and asked if they’d be open to a weekly friend team call to talk about the important personal stuff in our lives, our real selves. Because we shared similar speaking schedules and pressures, they said yes.
We started weekly Zoom calls using simple Level 5 Friendship ideas. A year later, guys who were just professional connections became true friends. Loyal. Honest. In each other’s corner.
Here’s what’s for you: casual or professional relationships can become true friends, even a core team. But you need to initiate. If you want better friendships, tell them: I want this to be worthwhile. I want to talk about real life, real challenges, and grow together.
Throw out the idea. Schedule the call. Follow through. Huddling grows teammates for life.
EXAMINE SELF
Am I holding back from committing to honest, consistent friendship? Cautiously avoiding personal stuff? Keeping my guard up? Letting other guys make the first move?
SCRIPTURE
“Two are better than one, they can help each other succeed. If one falls, one can help the other up. …Standing back-to-back, two can hold off an attack. Three is even better as a triple-braided cord is not easily broken” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–12
QUOTE
“Commitment transforms buddies into brothers.” – Jeff Kemp
TIP
Pick your guys. Name the commitment. Build the rhythm. Don’t leave real friendship to chance.
PRAY,CONFESS & REPENT
Father, I confess I’ve dabbled in friendship. I’ve stayed on the edges and avoided real commitment. I repent of passivity and fear. Lord, give me the courage to say yes to real friendship—and the humility to grow with my brothers.
COACHING
Most men want brotherhood but few define it. Pick your friends. Initiate the conversation. Commit to trust and show up. Weekly consistency grows connection. Shared struggles form strength.
ACTION STEP
Have a defining conversation with 1 or 2 friends this week: “I want this friendship to go deeper—how I’m really doing, our challenges, praying for each other. Sound good to you?” Show him the LEVEL 5 FRIENDSHIP Pyramid
COMMITMENT
I will commit to building and guarding 1 or 2 deep, Christ-centered friendships this season.
HABIT
Create a recurring rhythm—meeting or calling for weekly or biweekly huddles, along with check-ins or prayer texts. Guard your rhythm like it matters—because it does.
TALK & PRAY WITH FRIENDS
Ask a friend: “What would it look like for us to commit to intentionally walking together in Christ?” Then pray together for courage and consistency in connecting.
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