How to Lead Your Family Spiritually

Think of the qualities of a great leader. He or she is inspirational and direct, has a plan, holds others accountable, and puts the team first. Now, think of a bad leader: a hypocritical commander who lacks confidence or direction. You’ve probably experienced both—and maybe even been both at different times in your life. But when it comes to learning how to lead your family spiritually, the stakes couldn’t be higher. The impact of your leadership is not only generational; it’s eternal.

What Makes A Great Leader

Live a Spiritual Life

The first step is to walk the walk. Some of the best examples of leadership come when someone who has already made the journey comes back to show everyone else the way. Think about the personal journey that Moses made that prepared him to lead God’s people out of Egypt. 

Setting a godly example for your children is just one more reason to devote yourself to your own relationship with Jesus. Receive your identity as a Son of God. Commit to daily prayer, studying Scripture and seeking God’s will in your life. Spend time with Him. Hold yourself accountable and let it shine through your actions. 

Model Christ-Like Behavior

Your example of what it looks like to live a spiritual life will speak louder than your words ever will. The Apostle Paul directs in 1 Corinthians 11:1 to “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.” As a spiritual leader to the church in Corinth, Paul modeled Jesus for them as best he could. 

Do the same for your family. Model Jesus’ example of positive, secure masculinity. Show them how to live in God’s light with love, patience, forgiveness and kindness. And, maybe most importantly of all, show them the servant-leadership that Jesus showed his disciples. If he had the humility to wash their feet as God incarnate, then you too can lead with humility by serving your family in the most practical of ways.

Teach Them About Living A Spiritual Life

Walking the walk and modeling a spiritual life lays the groundwork for spiritually leading your family. But it’s going to take instruction, too. Think of how your Dad or Mom taught you to ride a bike. They didn’t just bike in front of you and expect you to get it. They described the actions you’d have to take and held the seat until you were able to pedal on your own. Then, they helped you up when you fell and encouraged you to try again.

The same is true for guiding children in faith. Talk to them about God, about scripture, about the behaviors and actions they must take to strengthen their relationship with God. And remember, just like riding a bike, you can’t do it for them. Let them “fall off the bike,” and be there to help them back up and encourage them when they do. 

Keep God’s Word At The Heart of Everything

Too often, Christians confine their engagement with scripture to specific times—during morning devotionals or Sunday services. But God’s Word, and obedience to it, should be a consistent, guiding light in every area of your life, especially as you lead your family spiritually. In Deuteronomy 6:6-7, God commands parents to “Impress [my commandments] on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

Your home should revolve around God, just as Joshua declares in Joshua 24:15, “As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Leading your family spiritually means building habits like family prayer, reading the Bible together, and establishing faith-based traditions. It also extends beyond your home—teaching your children to serve others through outreach programs, feeding the hungry, and clothing those in need, just as Jesus described in Matthew 25:35-40.

Lead with Prayer, Patience Humility and Wisdom

As a father, it can be easy to get anxious and overwhelmed with all the important decisions you have to make. You might be tempted to repress these insecurities and put on a brave face. But that will only lead to an explosion later on. Instead, embrace the call to lead your family spiritually by modeling prayer and surrender. Whether it’s financial troubles, sickness, family challenges or uncertainty, do what Philippians 4:6 says: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” 

Don’t expect everything to be fixed right after you pray, either. Show your children how to patiently, faithfully wait for God’s answer and how to respond—especially when it’s not the one you want. Be patient and steady. Your consistency and security will create the safe, stable environment they need for their faith to grow.

When you make mistakes (and you will because you’re human), don’t double down and rely on your authority as the head of the household. That will only cause resentment and distrust. Apologize and learn from your mistakes with humility and wisdom.

 

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Key Traits of Christian Leaders

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Christian leadership is more than just holding a position of authority; it’s about embodying the qualities and principles that reflect Christ’s example. True Christian leaders are called to lead with faith, integrity, and a heart for service, guiding others in a way that honors God and promotes spiritual growth. But what are the key traits that define a Christian leader?

By exploring biblical leadership qualities and principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of what it means to lead effectively in a way that aligns with God’s will.

Key Traits Of Christian Leaders

Biblical Leadership Qualities

The Bible provides a clear framework for what it means to be a godly leader. Among the most important qualities are humility, wisdom, and a servant’s heart. In Philippians 2:3-4 (NLT), Paul instructs us, “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” Humility is essential for leaders who wish to guide others with a spirit of service rather than self-promotion.

Another key quality is wisdom, which allows leaders to make decisions that are just and aligned with God’s truth. James 1:5 (NLT) encourages leaders to seek wisdom from God: “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.” A wise leader discerns God’s will and acts accordingly, leading others with clarity and conviction.

Finally, a servant’s heart is perhaps the most defining trait of a Christian leader. Jesus Himself modeled this when He washed His disciples’ feet, demonstrating that true leadership is about serving others. Mark 10:45 (NLT) reminds us, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.” This principle of servant leadership is central to the Christian approach to leading others.

Christian Leadership Principles

Building on these qualities, Christian leadership is guided by several core principles that reflect the teachings of Christ. These principles include:

  • Leading by Example: Christian leaders are called to live out the values they preach, setting a positive example for others to follow. As Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 11:1 (NLT), “And you should imitate me, just as I imitate Christ.”
  • Encouraging and Uplifting Others: A Christian leader supports and encourages their followers, helping them to grow in their faith and fulfill their potential. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NLT) advises, “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”
  • Maintaining Integrity: Integrity is crucial for Christian leaders, as it reflects their commitment to living a life that honors God. Proverbs 10:9 (NLT) states, “People with integrity walk safely, but those who follow crooked paths will be exposed.”

These principles guide Christian leaders in their daily actions, ensuring that their leadership is rooted in faith and aligned with biblical teachings.

Leading with Faith and Integrity

Leading with faith and integrity means prioritizing God’s will above all else. A Christian leader does not rely solely on their own strength or wisdom but seeks God’s guidance in every decision. This approach to leadership ensures that their actions and decisions are consistent with the teachings of Scripture and reflect the character of Christ.

Faithful leadership also involves a deep commitment to integrity. This means being honest, transparent, and trustworthy in all dealings, both in public and in private. When leaders maintain integrity, they build trust with those they lead and create an environment where others feel safe and valued.

Moreover, leading with faith requires a constant connection to God through prayer, worship, and the study of Scripture. It’s through these spiritual disciplines that leaders can remain grounded in their faith and receive the strength they need to guide others effectively.

 

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Discover How Jesus Changed The World

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Jesus is all about transformation. He transforms the character of those who follow Him, transforming their relationships with others and the communities that center their lives around Him. Is it any wonder that no other man has changed the world more than Jesus? 

So, how did Jesus change the world? Through His perfect teachings and His sacrifice. Other religions recognize him as a teacher (even if they mistake him for only a teacher). Gandhi drew great inspiration from Jesus’ example for his non-violent protests. Many values and morals that the world takes for granted as universal truths without realizing it was Jesus who taught and exemplified them. And His death on the cross changed the course of the cosmos forever.

3 Huge Ways Jesus Changed the World 

1. The Treatment of Children

Remember when Jesus said, “Suffer little children, and forbid them not, come unto me”. It might seem like an obvious thing for Him to say to our modern ears. We commit ourselves to protecting our children and doing whatever we can to set them up to succeed and make their lives better. 

But that’s not how it was during Jesus’ time. They were not cherished as an important life. Children were often left to die or sold into slavery. And they were definitely not something to aspire to be like, as Jesus told His followers, “Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the Kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” 

In the world after Jesus, believers learned that you needed humility, faith, innocence and love to receive God’s kingdom. And thanks to Jesus’ example, believers and non-believers alike started giving children the treatment they deserved—opening up orphanages and other social programs to care for them.  

2. Radical Empathy 

Everyone knows the term “Good Samaritan” is someone who acts out of compassion to save someone who desperately needs help. It comes from Jesus’ parable in which a traveler is beaten and left for dead by the road. Jesus describes how a priest and a Levite, two people who were considered among the most upstanding and moral in the ancient Jewish world, pass him by. It’s the Samaritan, an outcast of society, who puts his neck out to help the stranger and shows that compassion—not religious titles or family ties—is what really matters to God. 

He also summed it up with the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would them do unto you.” 

Jesus didn’t just talk the talk, He walked the walk. During His time, there was a purity law that did not permit lepers (those who had a skin disease) to come close or be touched. But that didn’t stop a leper from showing faith in Jesus, and nor did it stop Jesus from touching him. With His touch, He cleansed the leper’s disease. 

Nowadays, we don’t just let sick people rot away. Doctors follow Jesus’ example and risk their lives to provide treatment. The early church decreed that they had to provide a hospice for caring for the sick and poor wherever a cathedral was built. 

3. A Personal Relationship with God for Everyone

Before Jesus came to earth, God’s presence was only able to be accessed by the high priest, who would intercede on behalf of the Jewish people with sacrifices. He would meet with God in the holy of holies, with a veil to shield the mortal man from the holy God’s powerful presence. But when Jesus died for our sins, the veil ripped. Thanks to his atonement, humans could now enjoy the presence of God. 

And it wasn’t just the Jewish people who were invited to a personal, boundary-less relationship with God. Jesus changed the world and transformed the religion to include the Gentiles (non-Jewish) people, too. He told His disciples to go into the world and share the good news of His sacrifice and the salvation that anyone could receive.  

 

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How to Bless Others

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We live in a self-centered, me-focused culture. Men especially are told to get the most out of life, make their money go further, and use their networks to get a better job. The fact that you’re looking for how to bless others shows that you realize it’s all about giving.

 

Why should we learn how to bless others?

Ephesians 1:3 tells followers of Jesus that God has “blessed us in heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.” And because we’ve been blessed so generously by God, we have a lot to give others. As 2nd Corinthians 9:11 says, we are “enriched in every way so that we can be generous on every occasion.”

 

Matthew 10:8 puts these ideas together into one simple, powerful command: “Freely you have received; freely give.” 

 

What is a Blessing?

I have described receiving God’s blessing before. His blessings are any kindness, mercy or good thing that comes from God. To bless others is to extend those good things from God. 

 

But even if you want to bless others, you might not know how to go about it—especially as a man. A lot of us have been taught to bottle our feelings up and not show any weaknesses. It can be harder to see a need in other guys and bless them with the kindness they need. That’s why it’s so important for men to open up and find intentional friendship. Ask God every day and stay on the lookout for opportunities to bless others.  

 

Biblical Ideas About Blessings

  1. Bear spiritual fruit: In John 15:5, Jesus uses the metaphor of a vine and branches to describe how believers cannot do anything unless they “remain in him.” By relying on God and keeping him at the center of our focus, God will use us to produce good things. Referencing this scripture, Paul summarizes the fruit of the spirit as “love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23). The moral? Focus on God and watch him transform your relationships with others.
  2. God’s standard of loving others: In our world, people have a whole lot of justifications for why they treat others badly (“they started it” or “they deserved it,” sound familiar?). But Jesus tells us to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” This essential piece of advice can guide as we navigate conflict with friends, family and strangers. Denying your natural inclination to be selfish or respond harshly and choosing graciousness and love can be a big blessing in difficult situations—when it matters most, you could say. But Jesus calls us to an even higher standard when He gives us His new commandment, “Love others, as I have loved you.” That means why must study His perfect example, and try our best to carry it out for others.
  3. Take care of those in need. Whether it’s friends or family or a stranger, God expects us to treat those in need as if they were Jesus Himself. As Matthew 25:36-40 explains, He will tell the righteous, “I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’… Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.” 

 

10 Ways to Bless Others

  1. Be intentional about spending time with someone. 
  2. Volunteer your time, attention and effort by serving the needy or the homeless community.
  3. Ask God to put someone on your heart and pray for that person. 
  4. Give a friend or loved one a ride to the airport. 
  5. Be encouraging with your words—tell someone that you are proud of them. 
  6. Serve someone their favorite meal. 
  7. Bring a hot drink on a cold day (or a cold drink on a hot day). 
  8. Ask someone about their day and really listen to their answer. Alleviate any burdens by sharing your own struggles or offering words of encouragement. 
  9. Pay close attention to what someone likes—then surprise them by getting it for them without them asking. 
  10. Go with someone to a doctor’s appointment (or any event) that they’re nervous about for support. 

 

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Why Won’t God Bless Me Financially? What the Bible Says

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You wouldn’t be the first person to wonder why God hasn’t sent lump sums of financial blessings. When we ask for something, it’s easy to be confused when we don’t receive it because we know God loves us more than we could possibly understand. A blessing is any kindness, mercy, or good thing that comes from God. Sometimes, they are things we ask for, sometimes they are things we realize we need after we receive them.

 

So, Why Won’t God Bless You Financially?

First, it’s important to dispel some of the myths surrounding financial blessings. One verse that’s often used to promote the “prosperity gospel” (the idea that God wants to bless you financially if you do the right things) is Malachi 3:10, which says, “Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house, and thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.” 

 

This might sound like a deal: If you tithe, God will bless you financially. But this verse refers to God’s promise to the people of Israel and their trust in God and investment in the communal good. As BibleRef explains, “Ancient agriculture was particularly vulnerable to insects and other natural dangers, so the pledge made over verses 10 and 11 seems to relate specifically to keeping such harms at bay.” 

 

A similar qualification can be made for Proverbs 3:9-10, which says, “Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty and your vats will be bursting with wine.” 

 

As a proverb, this is a general piece of wisdom from Solomon, not a guarantee from God. The truth of the matter is that God requires us to give freely of our wealth, which can be rewarded. But it’s not always in the matter or timeline we expect. More importantly, God sees our hearts. If we’re tithing just because we expect a return, how is that giving freely? 

 

Examine Your Desires

As always, God cares about our hearts. He wants us to clearly see Him and put Him at the center of our lives. For any of those expecting God to make him or her rich, remember what Jesus said to the rich man. “I’ll say it again, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God.” 

 

It’s important to remember who Jesus is talking to — a rich man who wants to follow Him. But Jesus can tell that he cares about earthly treasures more than spiritual ones, and therefore requires him to sell all he has and give it to the poor. He fails Jesus’ test and goes home sadly. 

 

Moral of the story? Don’t let your desire for financial gain get in the way of your eternal salvation. 

 

But what about if you’re asking, “Why won’t God bless me financially?” because you’re fearful and want financial stability? Jesus has something for that, too. In Matthew 6:31-33, He says, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” 

 

Even in the face of not knowing what we will eat, Jesus asks us to focus on what truly matters— His kingdom. And He promises us that God will take care of us. 

 

Practical Advice to Understand Financial Blessings

  1. Learn to pray. Write down everything you are grateful for. You might just realize that God is blessing you, even financially, in ways you had not noticed. 
  2. Receive your purpose. Your role in God’s Kingdom is much more meaningful than money could ever be. Reflect on your story and what God asks for you. Then ask God to help you carry it out.
  3. Bless others. John 15:5 promises us that if we receive God’s blessings every day, we will bear His fruit—that is, enjoy improved relationships and become a blessing to others.

 

You may refrain that internal question from “Why won’t God bless me financially” to “How can God use me to bless others?”

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What Does it Mean to Make Disciples?

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Did you know that you’re called to make disciples? What does it mean to make disciples, and how do you do it?

 

Sounds like a huge task, doesn’t it? 

 

Now, imagine you’re one of the apostles standing before Jesus after He’s risen from the dead and gives you this mission: “Go and make disciples of all nations” (Matthew 28:18-19). 

 

Facing this huge, important task, they didn’t ask, “What does it mean to make disciples?”

 

How come? 

 

Like any hard task, it helps to have a model. I got pretty good at throwing a football because of my dad. A quarterback himself, he molded my fingers to the laces, guided my hands to where I should hold it and showed me how to throw with a quick release and a strong spiral. 

 

I didn’t have to learn from a set of instructions. It had already been shown to me.

 

That’s the beautiful thing about Jesus giving this mission to His disciples at this point in the story. When He first met them, they’d have no idea what to do. But Jesus had intentionally showed them exactly how to make disciples with His perfect example throughout His ministry. 

 

Jesus had already modeled it for them—and He’s modeled it for you, too!

 

 

What Does it Mean to Make Disciples?

 

1. Share the Good News.

Jesus told his disciples about a different kind of Kingdom. Each of his disciples followed Him because they understood He was offering them something new. No longer were they waiting for a Messiah. No longer were they playing the rule-following religious thought of the self-righteous Pharisees. 

 

Jesus showed them they didn’t have to be perfect or act perfect in this Kingdom. In fact, what the culture calls weakness was strength. And that life, through Jesus, was eternal. That is the good news that you received, beginning your discipleship. And that is the good news Jesus wants us to share with others.

 

 

2. Jesus showed the Word.

As John the Baptist proclaimed, Jesus didn’t need to get baptized before going forth and starting His ministry. “I need to be baptized by you, and you come to me?”  

 

But he was showing us how new believers who have received the word are to be baptized to symbolize their new life in Christ. In Matthew 28, after telling his followers to make disciples, He includes “baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.” 

 

Beyond the act of baptism, Jesus wants us to have real relationships with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Throughout scripture, Jesus spoke to the Father and showed us what it meant to live with the Holy Spirit inside of us.

 

What does it mean to make disciples and show them the word? We go through life with them as true friends, show them how to speak to our Heavenly Father through prayer, and live with Holy Spirit inside of us—by “being rooted and grounded in love” (Ephesians 3:17) and spending time alone with God.

 

 

3. Jesus showed his disciples how to teach the Word.

At certain points throughout the gospels, Jesus tells a parable to the crowd and only reveals its meaning to His disciples. It wasn’t because Jesus wanted to make the interpretation exclusive. Instead, he knew some people listening would reject anything for their own personal reasons. Consider the rich young man who could not sell everything he owned to begin his discipleship and follow Jesus. 

 

The disciples on the other hand were all open to Jesus’ message, so He teaches it to them. In the same way, by spending time with Jesus and His Word, we can learn how to teach it to new disciples. 

 

 

4. Jesus modeled the servant attitude.

The night before Jesus was crucified, He got down and served the disciples by washing their feet. He was showing us that discipleship is always about serving. We must remember that God has put us there to serve their needs, as physical as their dirty feet and as spiritual as their eternal salvation.

 

 

Jesus Painted the Picture for Making Disciples

So, what does it mean to make disciples? Jesus gave us a clear picture. But He also gave us an important promise.

He assures us, “I am always with you to the end of the age.”

 

 

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Tips for Unlocking Spiritual Growth

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From a young age, the world tells us men that we have to keep growing to earn our manhood—our muscles, our bank account, our dating history. Other, smarter voices tell us to grow our character and become better husbands, fathers, and friends. But without learning how to grow spiritually, all this important work is unsustainable. 

 

Spiritual growth is the act of inviting Jesus into your life and becoming more like Him. Recently, I wrote about the journey of spiritual transformation that men need. Today, though, I want to provide practical tips on how to grow spiritually. 

 

Because far too often, people talk about it in nebulous terms when, really, it should be the most concrete thing in your life. So, here are 15 tips for unlocking spiritual growth in men, broken out into three major categories.

 

Invite Spiritual Growth Into Your Life.

Even though I grew up in a Christian household, I remember when I truly decided to live for God. It came at the end of college when I thought I had everything I wanted—friends, girlfriends, and a shot at an NFL career. Still, I was insecure and unhappy. Thankfully, God was tracking me down. Suddenly, making my purpose to live for him made a whole lot of sense. If you haven’t yet started your journey of spiritual growth, I encourage you to begin immediately.

  1. Clear away any previous conceptions that you have of God, and let Him show you who He really is. 
  2. Tell Jesus you believe He is the Son of God. 
  3. Thank Him for dying for your sins and ask Him to fill you with the Holy Spirit.
  4. Commit to following Him for the rest of your life.
  5. Find a local community of believers to join.

 

Receive From God.

Once you’ve accepted Christ into your life, you can grow spiritually by receiving from God. Receiving might sound like a passive thing, but it’s not. I like to compare it to making a reception in football. I got to play with legends like Jerry Rice and Steve Largent. They both tirelessly practiced eying the ball with great focus, snagging and tucking it away with a vice grip so no one could knock it loose. It’s the same way you should approach your receiving.

  1. Be intentional. Set up a private space to be with God and receive your identity as His son
  2. Study Jesus’s life and apply His relationship with the Father to your own.
  3. Write down your questions, fears and struggles. Expect to see His answer and healing eventually.
  4. Pray from Jesus’ pattern of prayer (Matthew 6:9-13) and ask Him who you should pray for.
  5. Thank Him for everything He’s given you. 

 

Bring God Into Your Daily Life and Relationships. 

Even though we need to spend time alone with God, spiritual growth in men is not a private thing. Use the power of a team to catalyze spiritual growth by bringing Him into every moment of the day and inviting Him to change your relationships. This is where you really start to see the fruits of your progress. You might find that you have more patience, grace, and forgiveness.   

  1. Pause and pray spontaneously throughout the day, alone or with someone if they’re open or need it. 
  2. Find someone who has been where you are now to mentor you in your spiritual journey. 
  3. Make a commitment to a friend or a few close friends to meet every week and help each other become more like Christ. 
  4. Serve your wife and children the way Jesus served his disciples. When you focus on what you can give instead of want you need, you’ll be amazed at the joy and depth it will bring to your life.
  5. Give back by sharing your journey of spiritual growth with others. 

 

Spiritual growth in men is not just possible—it’s what God asks from us. The good news? No one is perfect. But Jesus is, and He’ll be with you every step of the way.

 

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